The Opposite Game

Posted on May 8, 2012 by Sydney Blake

“I invented my life by taking for granted that everything I did not like would have an opposite, which I would like.” -Coco Chanel………Wouldn’t life be much simpler if we all put this in our attitude file? After all, to every negative there is a positive. Maybe we have wasted too much time focused on what we don’t like. Wouldn’t it be easier and a lot more fun to look for the opposites of what we don’t enjoy? I think yes. Sure there will always be the unavoidable, but what can it hurt to set our minds on what we truly love? Who knows, maybe we find that it makes the times when we are actually doing something we enjoy more valuable. I guess my mental picture needs to be more of long walks on the beach with my husband, and less of well it would just take to long to list my I don’t likes. It’s just wrong that my don’t likes are more prevalent than my do likes. So, I’m on a mission to eliminate as many don’t likes as I possibly can. The elimination process would go a lot faster if it didn’t include other people. How you get the opposite of other people is a mystery to me. Unfortunately, you just can’t take care of everything all by yourself. That being said, I am still determined to concentrate my efforts on the things that I like. Think about switching things up in your own mind. At the very least, you have meditated on the things that you do like longer than the things that you don’t like. Should you find an answer to the other people thing, please tell me what it is.

The Journey of Peace

Posted on May 7, 2012 by Sydney Blake

“The path of peace is not a passive journey. It takes incredible strength not to open a can of ‘whoop ass’, justifiably, when ones buttons are pushed.” -T.F. Hodge……….One would think the pursuit of peace would be a passive journey, right? Well, not so much, at least not for me. Enevitably, I will encounter every peace stealer in the world. It’s like I have attached a neon sign around my neck saying, “on a mission towards peace, please make the journey a difficult one”. Maybe it’s because my tolerance level is on empty. I just don’t deal well with ‘stupid’ people. In fairness to the ‘stupid’ people, they probably think the same thing about me. Although that would only make them more stupid, just kidding. I can be in the most zen state of mind, on my way to wherever, just happy go lucky, and low and behold here I am behind someone who clearly doesn’t know that the left lane on the interstate is a passing lane only. If you’re one of these people, here’s a clue, if you are being passed in the right lane, move over because you’re going too slow. I will admit that I have had my more than fair share of speeding tickets, but why, why, why don’t the hey I’m an idiot driving in the left lane, not passing anyone, causing traffic to slow to a crawl and being one big pain in my ass, not have their fair share of driving in a passing lane only tickets? I’m thinking Mother Teresa would feel the urge to open up a can on these people. So, if you want peace, clearly there can be no can opening. However, I have found that calling them a jackass allows me to continue in my pursuit of peace. Be your own voice of reason here. To say that you will need super-hero strength to not vaporize your button pushers would be a mute point. Just know that if you exercise this super human strength long enough you will eventually arrive at your destination. Just know that you’re going to need a martini the size of basketball when you get there………..Just Sayin, Sydney Blake

Lonely At The Top?

Posted on May 2, 2012 by Sydney Blake

“The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you.” -Bette Midler…….Finding someone to truly celebrate your success is harder than finding a four leaf clover. It’s easy to find the over the tops because most of the time the happiness they convey is, well fake. I honestly think you can trace is back to that same group, the insecure ones. To genuinely celebrate someone else’s success, you have to be secure in your own success. We can’t all be pro athletes, models, or rock stars, but we can be secure in our own self. I think it’s normal to want to be as successful as someone else. Don’t shun the ones who are more successful than you are. Surround yourself with these people, they know how to get it done. If you’re lucky maybe you’ll learn a thing or two. Who knows maybe some of it will rub off on you. Make sure that you are genuine when you convey happiness for the success of others, and if you can’t be genuine, the quiet game is definitely for you. Trust me, people are much better at spotting a faker than you think they are. Be secure in who you are, celebrate the success of others, and when it’s your turn my bet is they will return the favor………….Just Sayin

The Impossible Is An Opportuinity

Posted on April 30, 2012 by Sydney Blake

“This has always been a motto of mine: Attempt the impossible in order to improve your work.” -Bette Davis……….Sometimes you have to challenge yourself to become better. It’s that moment when you allow yourself to think outside of the box that real magic happens. Now you’re stretching your limits, you’re outside your comfort zone. Don’t let this freak you out because now you are about to experience some of the best work you have ever done. Now is the time to bring out all of the ideas you have stored away in the impossible box. At first glance, you may still feel overwhelmed when you pull these ideas out. That’s okay, you can use that to your advantage. Use that overwhelming feeling to break your ideas down into smaller, more manageable steps. An outline of sort generally calms me, because now I am in a step by step process instead of trying to bring it all together in one clip. Your focus should be on completing the process. Once you have the order of how everything is going to go, you just start checking things off your list. Now you can see the finish line. Cross it and realize you just did the impossible, and as it turns out it’s the best work you have ever done.

What You Don’t Know Won’t Hurt You

Posted on April 27, 2012 by Sydney Blake

“Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn’t know that, so it goes on flying anyway.” -Mary Kay Ash……….If someone tells you in theory this can’t be done, by all means do it. You should never tank an idea because someone tells you that it isn’t logical. If your idea goes against the status quo you can almost bet that it will be met with resistance. That doesn’t make it a bad idea, and it doesn’t mean it can’t be done. All your getting from someone who tells you it can’t be done is an admission on their part that they could never do it. Be sure that you understand this before you share your ideas with anyone, and it probably wouldn’t be a bad idea to work on that thick skin first. Sometimes you’re just going to have to trust in your vision. Don’t let it take the wind out of your sail when you are met with rejection. You may be told No a hundred times. Just realize it only takes one yes. Don’t become discouraged. Keep moving forward. People often live confined by the monotony of doing things the way they have been told to do things. They are never going to be the movers and the shakers of the world anyway, so don’t let them get into your head. Be sure to save these people a seat on your bandwagon because they are going to be the first ones in line when your can’t be done idea is being done. Be like the bumblebee listen to your own buzz. Kick back and enjoy the ride! Have a fantabulous weekend, Sydney Blake…………………..

The Gift of Sex Appeal

Posted on April 26, 2012 by Sydney Blake

“Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got, and fifty percent what people think you’ve got.” – Sophia Loren…………..Sex Appeal; You’ve got it or you don’t. Sex appeal is something that comes from within. It’s that one thing, the thing that separates the have’s from the have not’s. It’s usually something that can’t even be described. You just can’t put it into words. It may not even make sense, because sex appeal doesn’t always equal the most beautiful or the most handsome person in the room. There’s no checklist for sex appeal. Say for example you have two men and two women who have the same physical attributes, all four are gorgeous. But there’s something that sets two of them apart from the group. They all have the same eye and hair color, same hairstyle, and they’re all wearing the same outfit. So what is it that makes two of them stand out? Simple, it’s sex appeal. You see, sex appeal doesn’t discriminate. It’s not based on a stereo-type. It comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Sex appeal is not something you can put on. So, don’t waste your time trying to find it in an outfit. It’s not the outfit, it’s the person wearing it. Ironically, most of the time the have’s don’t even realize they have it. This can be extremely frustrating for the have not’s because it raises the have’s to an even higher sex appeal rating. Notice the have’s never say or do anything to try and convince people that they have sex appeal. They don’t have to because they couldn’t hide it if they tried. The have not’s will try to convince people that they have it, and it never ever works out for them. They end up looking uncomfortable and the attention they draw is for all the wrong reasons. I think that’s why it is so important to just be yourself. Choose the hairstyle that makes you feel great. Choose the clothes that compliment you. Find your true self, be your true self and sex appeal is automatic……………..Just Sayin………….Sydney Blake

You Hold The Power

Posted on April 23, 2012 by Sydney Blake

“There is incredible power in what you believe.” -Joel Osteen………We all hold an incredible power, what we believe. Your belief can overcome any obstacle. It can sustain you through difficult times. It can catapult you to a whole new level. Simply, believe and anything is possible. Some of my greatest rewards have come when no one else believed. Maybe it was because when everything was said and done, my belief made me stronger. It’s always nice to have the support of your family and friends, but even if you don’t you can’t let that diminish what you believe. Sometimes you’ve just got to know what you know and be good with that. We have no idea the power we hold in our hands if we only believe. Today know that you hold an incredible power. Decide to believe with your whole heart. Focus on what you know your future holds, and don’t let anyone else run your race. When you control your own race, the finish line is always well deserved, and much appreciated. Have a wonderful day!

What Do You Answer To?

Posted on April 20, 2012 by Sydney Blake

“It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.” -W.C. Fields…………Think of your life as if you were a golfer playing in a PGA tournament. You’ve made the cut, on to the tournament. After you’ve made your first swing, commentators are going to be giving a play by play of everything you do, good or bad, until the tournament is over. This is going to go on for the next two days. What they say over the course of the tournament can be ego friendly, or it can be ego shattering. The fans hold that same power. There’s no way the players can tune all of that noise out. You can’t tell me they don’t hear things from one tee box to another, and you can’t tell me they don’t have access to the golf channel or ESPN. At some point, they are going to hear the things that people are saying about them. They are going to hear the good, the bad, and the ugly. They can’t let the good things they hear go to their head, and they can’t let the bad things they hear get in their head. And, they for sure can’t let the ugly things they hear trigger their emotions. It probably wouldn’t be a good idea to wrap a five iron around somebody’s head. So, they’re going to be called a lot of things, big deal. True, what they’re called is not really a big deal. However, what they answer to is a huge deal. It’s a huge deal because it could definitely play a part in how they finish in the tournament. It could sometimes mean a big time win or a big time loss. So, they have to decide before they tee off on the first hole what they are going to answer to. The players who have had a lot of success have long known what to answer to, and for that matter what not to answer to. Only you know who you really are. Embrace that, and the next time somebody calls you something, you can either say hey they’re talking to me, or you can keep on walking because you know that there’s no way they’re talking to you. Guess who holds all of that power? Yep, you sure do! Have a fantabulous weekend!

Learning how to see clearly

Posted on April 19, 2012 by Sydney Blake

“It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.” -Sally Field………..To thine own self be true, this nutshells it for me. We have our life to live, no one else’s. We have to be the person we were created to be. One of the side benefits to aging is worrying about what everyone else thinks. Your decisions are based on what you feel the need to do. Maybe you get more comfortable in your own skin. I’m not really sure what it is, I just know that it happens. I guess you figure out that you’re the one that gets the glory or you’re the one that gets the blame. For me the bitter pill is always easier to swallow when it’s my pill. Knowing that we are our own worst critic, I think it would be wise to also cut ourselves a little slack. The journey towards peace truly begins when we are the ones holding the measuring stick. Think about where you are and where you want to be. Be your own moral compass.

How To Get Your Happily Ever After

Posted on April 18, 2012 by Sydney Blake

“A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him.” -David Brinkley………..Wouldn’t you agree that a solid foundation is the key to a successful anything? Let’s use marriage as an example. I think it’s fair to say that the majority of people who get married believe their marriage will be successful. Women want the fairytale wedding they have dreamed about since they were little girls. Even the most forwarding thinking women want the Cinderella wedding, and no Cinderella wedding would be complete without Prince Charming. Geeze, just look at all the bricks that were hurled at them way before the wedding. Come on, they had an evil stepmother and two ugly wicked stepsisters to contend with. Not to mention, the whole shoe thing. Just think what would never have been had Cinderella been PMSing and fluid retentioning? Sorry, there’s no way that shoe is gonna fit. Needless to say, the “happily ever after” thing was a breeze because the relationship could obviously withstand some major brick throwing. They used the bricks to set the foundation for their “happily ever after”. Maybe you don’t encounter the evil stepmother and the ugly wicked stepsister prior to the wedding, and you end up with the fairytale wedding of your dreams. But trust me, they will rear their ugly head. In life, there will always be brick throwers, so be prepared. Start everything you do by first laying a solid foundation. Use the bricks that will be hurled at you to build a fortress. This is the key to your happi

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